The three most usual choices for what to do on a date are dinner, a movie, and a public event such as a sports game or concert. Those activities often give the couple several hours of time to enjoy one another’s company. But relying on those same activities too often makes the time spent together seem less significant and less dramatic.
Human nature craves the out-of-the-ordinary. A new experience raises awareness and pumps up our interest level. If a couple continues to occasionally find new and unusual choices for what to do, their time together will be more enjoyable.
robably the best way to find new ideas for what to do for a date is to make a point of being on the lookout for chances. You may see something in the paper or in a magazine. Someone you know could share an idea they have had. You never know when an idea will present itself.
You should also actively search for new and unusual things to do. A wonderful place to look for ideas is web sites about things you want to know more about. Use Google or your favorite search engine. Key keywords or phrases which describe the actions and events that you find interesting and fun. Look through the list of web sites found with the search. Read the sites that appear most promising.
The local visitors’ bureau is a possible source of ideas. They will likely have many brochures about local attractions. Look in the community events section of your newspaper. Check out the listings for your county, city or community center. Look through the brochures at the Chamber of Commerce. Look in the yellow pages under headings like canoeing, rafting, biking, hiking, photography courses, and art galleries. Check the bulletin board in the library. When you find something interesting, adapt that action to fit your interests and preferences.
When you’ve discovered a specific interest, go to stores that sell equipment for this activity. Ask about programs and events in your region.
Maintain a list of potential activities. Have a place to keep brochures, maps, and visitors’ guides. Make folders on your computer for maintaining what you’ve found online. Use Notepad to copy, paste, and save just what is of interest to you. The File menu of most browsers includes a Save As command which may be used to store an entire web page.
Be open to any suggestions that your spouse offers. Ask yourself what your partner would enjoy doing. Choose something which jibes with his/her tastes and pursuits. After all, you won’t enjoy the date if your partner does not.
Pick activities that provide opportunities for conversation. Opinions you and your date make to each other are often the most significant part the date. Couples will need to discover each other’s worth to construct respect and trust. Sharing ideas keeps the connection alive and interesting.
Your attitude and your spouse’s attitude are what’s most important for enjoying a date. You may enjoy yourselves if you’re open and positive to what the situation offers. Maintain your mental attitude and pleasure abilities high. Regularly do things that nourish those parts of you that seek pleasure, adventure, discovery and wonder.
Pursue what you have a passion for. Revive an old fantasy or pursue a current ambition. Being passionate about something provides you the energy to be enthused and adventuresome.
Stay informed to stay interesting. Keep up with current events and issues. Listen to the news and news commentary programs. Satisfy your curiosity about things you find interesting. Look up things on the Net. Read magazines. Watch television documentaries. Proceed to the library. Browse at book stores. Start looking for new ideas and new pursuits. One good source I like is the web sites of National Public Radio.
Where you go and what you do on a date aren’t what matters most. Having fun on a date is more a matter of mindset. Be positive. Let your focus be on what you like about the experience. And use variety and some new adventures to maintain your awareness level up so that things stay interesting.